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Why Name it to Tame it Is the Best First Response to Strong Emotions
By Dr. Joan Flora, PCC Imagine you’re in a team meeting. Everyone is discussing next steps, but one colleague sits back, arms crossed, saying nothing. Afterward, you can’t stop replaying it: “Are they angry at me? Do they not respect my leadership?” The anxiety builds. The story in your head grows louder. But then you…
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How Effective Leaders Use Emotional Reactivity to Their Advantage
The problem isn’t reactivity; it’s unexamined reactivity. The challenge is to notice it, study it, and trace it back to what needs attention.
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You Don’t Need the Perfect Words—Just These Four Steps.
Every school leader eventually faces a moment like this: You know the warning signs. You know the outcome if things don’t shift. And you care, deeply. But here’s the hard part: the more you care, the more powerless you may feel. Your brain starts spinning: What if I just said the right thing? What if…
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If you want better communication, you need to understand emotional reactivity
If you want better communication in your school, you need to understand emotional reactivity, starting with your own. Reactivity is radio static. It distorts messages, escalates tension, and burns trust. In schools, it turns everyday conversations into crises, leaving leaders stuck responding to problems rather than solving them. Sounds bad, right? It’s a gift. When…
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You’re not too emotional. You’re under-informed
You’re Not Too Emotional. You’re Under-Informed.What High-Performing Leaders Know About Emotions A few years ago, I interviewed a school principal named Elena. She had been promoted quickly—recognized for her sharp thinking and calm under pressure. But during one particularly volatile year, things shifted. She found herself snapping at colleagues. Avoiding difficult conversations. Over-apologizing in staff…
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Decoding Anger Using Emotional Response-Ability®
Decoding Anger Using Emotional Response-Ability® Anger doesn’t just appear out of nowhere—it’s your brain’s way of waving a big red flag that says, Something’s not right here. When it shows up, the instinct is often to push back, assert a right, or make a demand. But before reacting, pause–not to suppress the anger but to…
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Tender Needs Post
We create space for real growth when we meet our tender needs with warm curiosity instead of judgment.
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Breaking free from Overwork
One of the biggest misconceptions in school leadership is that taking care of yourself means you’re not doing enough for others.
